The Way We Were

This weekend I threw a baby shower for my bestest friend, Jen Mahal. (Look at us from my wedding in 2000 … weren’t we dishy?) It’s a real moment of truth seeing the shy girl you met in high school drama class become a mother. As I looked across the table at her, I wondered what happened to the girls we were? Firmly ensconced in our thirties, we’re now wives and mothers; professional writers and journalists. It’s safe to say that we’re officially adults and yet speaking for myself, I don’t feel like one.

I certainly don’t dress like one as evidenced by this photo taken at the San Diego Burn Run in July:

I’m beginning to suspect that like F. Scott Fitzgerald’s Benjamin Buttons, the older I get, the less mature I become and you know what? I like the person I see in the mirror. She makes me laugh. She doesn’t get all het up over saying stupid things, or not appearing cool because she now knows that “cool people” are, in actuality, boring people who wouldn’t know a good fart joke if it came out of their own ass.

As we get older, our lives get harder and yet, it doesn’t help if you become hard. This past January I had to find a new agent and embrace that my writing had changed, rather than try to replicate what I’d been doing with my past books.

If I had allowed the experience to harden me, I don’t think I could’ve kept going. If I hadn’t learned to roll my eyes and channel anger into action, I wouldn’t have found my way out of the darkness. This summer I revised The Ballad of Aracely Calderon (again), I spent a lot of time with my family and published a feature story looking back at the life and career of Ritchie Valens (yes, I got to meet the Donna!); I profiled Jay Hernandez from Hostel in Latino Future and Jose Aponte, director of the San Diego County Library. Next month, I will see my very first cover story in Rise Up magazine about the civil rights case, Mendez v. Westminster. From the emails I’ve received, my story on biracial Latinas in LatinaVoz helped some readers understand the racism they’ve experienced from their own families.

I never would’ve had these adventures if I’d kept plodding along doing the same thing. This fall, starting with Ylse creator and star, Ruth Livier on Tuesday, I hope to introduce you to more women who are daring, playful and brave.

Best,
Mary

HIGH-larious

If you haven’t seen the web series, Ylse, dude, you are missing out!

Office workers beware: this is not work-safe viewing unless your boss called in sick and you have ear phones.

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Summertime …and the winning is easy

Summer Crowds at Mission Beach from Art.com

I want to let you know about a really funny novel and an awesome giveaway opportunity. I hope you’ll check out, Fifteen Minutes of Shame written by my friend and bestselling author, Lisa Daily.

Fifteen Minutes of Shame is a hilarious beach read about what happens when America’s favorite TV love guru finds out her husband is cheating – live, on national television. I’ve read this book and highly recommend it for those of you who love a feel-good, woman-triumphs-over-all kind of read.

UPDATE: Lisa’s Amazon.com special is now over but there are still opportunities for you to win free books! Read on…

If you’d like to win a signed copy of In Between Men, head over to Jane Porter’s contest page. Also, make sure you visit my contest page to win a signed copy of my friend, Margo Candela’s upcoming book, More Than This!

Hope you’re having a great summer! I’ve been writing features stories for Rise Up, Latina Voz and Latino Future magazines, as well as my books. I’ll be back on a more regular basis in the fall!
Best,
Mary

Pregnant Pause

Pregnant Pause by Barbara Aliaga from Art.com

My mom reminded me that I haven’t been blogging lately and I apologize for that. But everytime I start a new entry, my book calls me away and then when I realize – four hours later – that I was supposed to blog but I can’t remember what about.

So the book needs me and I need the book. I’ll chime in if I have something to say, but for the most part, I’ll be in confinement this summer. Thank you for understanding!

The Women, Words & Wisdom Blog Tour


Is over but our stories are still up! Thank you to Nuvia Crisol Guerra for allowing us to use her stunning artwork for our logo. If you want to see all of her work, visit http://www.artecrisol.com/.

Mary Castillo, author of “Switchcraft”

Caridad Ferrer, author of “It’s Not About the Accent” (http://fashionista_35.livejournal.com/)

Lara Rios, author of “Becoming Americana” (http://www.lararios.blogspot.com/)

Mayra Calvani, The Dark Phantom Review (http://www.thedarkphantom.wordpress.com/)

Caridad Piniero, author of “The Calling” Vampire series (www.caridad.com/blog)

Jamie Martinez Wood, author of “Rogelia’s House of Magic” (http://jamiemartinezwood.blogspot.com/)

Berta Platas, author of “Cinderella Lopez” (http://bertaplatas.blogspot.com/)

Tracy Montoya, “I’ll Be Watching You” (http://www.tracymontoya.blogspot.com/)

Kathy Cano Murillo, aka “The Crafty Chica” (http://thecraftychica.blogspot.com/)

Misa Ramirez, author of “Living the Vida Lola” (http://chasingheroes.com/)

The Guy Upstairs by Mary Castillo

“Now don’t get out until I come around with the umbrella,” Dori ordered.

“Who are you to tell me what to do?” Grammy demanded.

“It’s wet outside.”

“So? I ain’t no wicked witch. I ain’t gonna melt.”

Thanks so much for checking out the sneak peek of my upcoming novel, The Guy Upstairs. I’m moving the updated version of this excerpt to the Free Reads section of my soon-to-be relaunched website. If you’d like to be notified when it’s up and ready for you to enjoy, please email me at: mary@marycastillo.com with the subject line “I want my free read.”

Or, meet Dori and her grammy in the anthology collection, Names I Call My Sister available in print or your favorite eBook!

Thanks,

Mary

Sacha Boutros

Sacha Boutros, the voice behind Sela Orihuela in Names I Call My Sister, is releasing her very first CD! If you’re in San Diego, think about attending her mega release party on Wednesday, May 28th at Anthology Supper Club in Little Italy. The show will begin at 7.30 pm. There will be two sets of 45 minutes. Tickets are $10 for bar & upper level seating; $20 for first-floor dining; and $30 for first-floor booths.

Support a new voice in jazz and have the opportunity to tell your kids that you saw Sacha Boutros when she was first starting out!

To purchase tickets go to http://www.sacha-boutros.com/!

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Between the Pages with Jamie Martinez Wood

I’ve had the privelege of watching my friend, Jamie Martinez Wood’s new book, Rogelia’s House of Magic come to be. When we first met, she was in revision hell. But then I got to sneak a peek at the copy-edited manuscript and then was one of the first to see the cover. This summer, readers will go on a journey with Fern, Marina and Xochitl, who discover their powers through Rogelia, a housekeeper and curandera.

Chica Lit: Tell us about the first moment you came up with the idea for Rogelia’s House of Magic.

Jamie: The project came to me and I was so excited that I immediately got into a car accident. Claudia Gabel, an editor at Delacorte Press, decided she wanted to see a book about Latina teens and magic so she began casting around for a suitable writer for the project. Marcela Landres knew that I had written four nonfiction books on magic (two for teens: The Teen Spell Book and The Enchanted Diary) and two books of Hispanic culture (Hispanic Baby Name Book and Latino Writers & Journalists) and recommended me. So I took the bus everywhere – like a teenager seeking independence (the car was in the shop for a month), and by putting myself in their shoes, I was able to create their individual stories. The girls of course needed a mentor, who became Rogelia, named after the nanny who took care of my baby sister when I was a teen.

Chica Lit: You’ve written several nonfiction titles but how different was it to write a novel?

Jamie: In a non-fiction book, the writing is linear and straight-forward. In a fiction book, writing moves in circles that weave back and forth. I love writing dialog (I can finally put those voices in my head to work!) Non-fiction is telling people exactly what you want them to know. Fiction or storytelling requires symbols and relationships to convey your message. I love creating a world that runs like a movie through your imagination.

Chica Lit: How much of yourself is in these three young women?

Jamie: I am these three girls rolled into one. I am an impetuous Wild Child like Fern, more often barefooted hugging some tree, and like Marina I tend to worry, had a trying relationship with my mother, and we share family history. In my quiet moments, I tend to mimic Xochitl’s autonomy, determination and solemnity about what’s important to me.

Chica Lit: You have a really interesting family history and deep roots in California. Would you share?

Jamie: My family history dates back to the Spanish soldiers and Mexican civilians that came with Father Junipero Serra in 1770s. Jose Antonio Yorba and Juan Pablo Peralta (mentioned in Rogelia’s House of Magic) were granted the first land grant, 72,000 acres, from the King of Spain in what is now Orange County. I also have reason to believe (by virtue of some pictures) that I have Native California heritage as well, perhaps Tongva or Ajachemen (aka, Gabrieleño or Juaneño). I became aware of this heritage when I was nine and it seems to me that is when I began feeling the spirit of my ancestors all around me.

Chica Lit: When did you tap into your spirituality? Do you hope that the book will encourage readers to find their spiritual calling?

Jamie: I was one of those kids tapped into their spirituality from a young age, probably seven or so. I was raised Christian Scientist, a mystical Christianity, (not the Tom Cruise one – but the one where people would say “oh, you’re the ones who don’t believe in doctors”). This upbringing taught me that Sacred Source is male/female, loves me dearly, and that all things and ideas – metaphysical, physical, or emotional are available to me whenever I ask for them with “faith as a grain of mustard seed… nothing shall be impossible.” Combine this belief with a tarot-reading nana, a Catholic mama who loves ritual and symbology, a nana whom I only knew from the spirit world (my mom’s mom died a month before I was born, but stayed around to be my guardian angel) and a bent toward nature, you get earth spirituality with a healthy dose of magic.

My hope for my readers is more that they find their gift or talent and begin sharing that with the world. I personally believe a spiritual calling helps us discover our unique specialness because by believing in a loving, positive source energy greater than ourselves, we begin to believe that something really wonderful lives within us. And when we are connected to this source and everything and everyone, we intrinsically know that sharing joy with others expands the joy within.

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Enter to win a signed copy of Jamie’s upcoming novel, Rogelia’s House of Magic. Go here.